As a culture I think we have overly romanticized the idea of drama — especially within the context of relationships.

Watch most any primetime sitcom, romantic comedy, or reality show and you’ll get more relational drama than you’ll know what to do with.

We also see relational drama between celebrities being broadcast over twitter feeds and hollywood news outlets.

All of this seems to be re-wiring our brains to believe that drama = a normal relationship.

And what’s worse is that somehow we’ve come to believe that a lack of drama constitutes a boring relationship.

I, of course, disagree. But I could be in a shrinking minority.

Are you familiar with the song Clarity from Zedd?

If not, have a listen:

I’ll be honest, I’m the kind of person that often gets drawn into a song by the beat, the rhythm, and the feelings they evoke — long before I hear the lyrics.

So I’m not exactly sure when the words of the song started to penetrate my psyche, but I fear that the chorus for this song has become the relational anthem for far too many young relationships today:

If our love is tragedy, why are you my remedy?
If our love’s insanity, why are you my clarity?

If the first thing you think of when you hear this song is — Oh, that sounds just like me and so-and-so — then we might need to talk.

Now, I’m not trying to suggest that relationships should be free of drama completely.

Every relationship, at different points in time, will experience its own highs and lows. It’s own kind of drama. Because you’ve got two imperfect people who are trying to relate and grow closer as an imperfect couple.

But a good, healthy relationship should be more than a bunch of highs and lows.

And it most certainly shouldn’t be defined by all of its highs and lows.

So if this song (and the words of the course in particular) describe your current relationships — it might be time to ask some important questions.

Questions like:

• Why is this relationship so full of drama?
• What role do I play in creating, or perpetuating, all of the drama?
• Is this really what God wants for me?
• What would a more healthy relationship look like?
• Is it possible to move this relationship in a more healthy, and less drama-filled, direction? If not, what do I need to do?

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What do you think?

Have we bought into an overly romanticized notion of drama within the context of relationships?